RECALIBRATE CARETAKER CONDITIONING ~ Decide Your Direction & Pace
Chakra 3: Empowerment — Reprogram-Yourself Experiential
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This video explains the science behind the exercise below. Click the word “PRIMAL” to start it.
From TEACH TANTRA by Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, and Janet Kira Lessin, CEO, School of Counseling & Tantra
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CONTEXT
As you grew from fetus to teen, caretakers and institutions imprinted different levels of your brain:
Level 1 — Spinal Nerve: body reactions
Level 2 — Limbic System: emotional responses
Level 3 — Thinking Patterns: thoughts, beliefs, and interpretations
Behavior, not just words, showed or lacked love and imprinted each level of your brain.
You developed Level 2 emotional consciousness as you interacted with caretakers, siblings, peers, schools, and media.
To feel fully loved and develop at Level 2, you need emotional expression and contact with people who love you, care for you, protect you, and support you in choosing how and when you meet your emotional needs.
Consider your attitudes toward sexuality, anger, or spirituality as examples of Level 2 programming.
The exercise in this introduction invites you to probe the origins and power of your sexual conditioning.
If parents, religious guides, media icons, literary paragons, authority figures, and peers encouraged you to explore sexuality at your own pace and in your own direction, you developed sexual and romantic inner voices and a center capable of coordinating them.
But if your caretakers and others discouraged you, you may have suppressed your sexual and lover parts.
Perhaps they imprinted you with their attitudes toward masturbation, sex with people with disabilities, or relationships with people whose race, body type, age, religion, occupation, wealth, location, or education differed from—or resembled—your own.
Did caretakers, media, or peers stop you from doing what you wanted?
Did they make you do what you did not want to do?
If they interfered with your erotic explorations, you may have conformed to what they wanted or rebelled against it.
If parents forbade self-pleasuring, they held you back.
If, on the other hand, they pressured you to masturbate instead of sharing sexual experiences with other people, they pushed you toward masturbation.
When people pushed or pulled you, they implied that you lacked the judgment to choose for yourself.
They wanted you to develop differently than you might have if you had explored your interests freely, without being pushed or restrained.
Perhaps you obeyed them and acted as those who pushed or restrained you wanted. In doing so, you may have constellated a Pleaser or Conformist Subself.
Or perhaps you rebelled against them and constellated a Rebel or Addictive Subself.
In either case, when caretakers pushed or pulled you toward directions and paces they demanded, you received the message that they did not accept and love you as you naturally were.
REPROGRAM YOURSELF FOR YOUR DIRECTION, AT YOUR PACE
Transcend your conditioning.
Embrace your hidden parts and keep your protective reactions available for those moments when you consciously choose to use them.
Witness yourself. Center yourself.
Coordinate your love life in ways that meet the needs of both your wild and controlled subselves.
Do this exercise alone or with a witness. Either way, respond aloud, even if no one hears you.
Record your responses and listen to them later. You may discover additional insights.
BEGIN THE EXERCISE
Lie on your back with your eyes closed, legs apart, and arms at your sides.
Take long, slow breaths through your mouth. Let your belly expand when you breathe in and fall when you breathe out.
Make a soft “ahh” sound as you release all the air.
RECALL THE EXPERIENCE
Recall a time WHEN SOMEONE PUSHED YOU into something sexual or romantic you were not ready for, or WHEN SOMEONE HELD YOU BACK from something you were ready for.
About how old were you?
Tell the story—and relive the incident—in the present tense.
What EMOTION do you experience as they push or pull you?
What body sensations do you feel during this experience?
Feel that emotion now.
Sink more deeply into the feeling.
INTENSIFY IT.
Imagine that—perhaps unlike the original situation—you can express yourself now.
Tell your pusher or puller how you feel.
Amplify and EXPRESS yourself to the person or people involved.
IDENTIFY THE PROGRAMMING
What limits, fixations, conclusions, attitudes, and INNER VOICES—or subselves— did this experience create or reinforce within you?
How did the fixations, conclusions, attitudes, and subselves that developed or strengthened from this experience serve you then?
HOW HAVE THESE SUBSELVES AND ATTITUDES PROTECTED YOUR INNER CHILD THROUGH THE YEARS?
How do these protective subselves and defensive attitudes serve you NOW?
What do your protective selves need?
REVISE THE SCENE
REVISE AND RETELL THE SCENE you just relived.
Retell it with a new script that frees you in situations that resonate with the original experience.
Let your new version include positive possibilities and choices that were unavailable to you then.
CREATE YOUR AFFIRMATION
Create an AFFIRMATION—a reminder sentence—to help you remember that you can choose your response when sexual, romantic, or relationship situations trigger an old imprint.
Say your affirmation aloud.
Affirm it again, louder.
Shout it.
IMAGINE A FUTURE CHOICE
Imagine a future situation in which an issue involving sex, love, or relationships triggers your old automatic reaction.
Ask the subself that carries your old reaction to express its CONCERNS.
Say aloud what it tells you.
Now ask the subself that says “yes” to new options what it wants in the situation you imagined.
Listen to both.
CENTER YOURSELF
CENTER yourself between the subself that offers your old reaction and the subself that says:
“Reflect and choose.”
Proclaim the steps you will take to meet the needs of both subselves while maintaining your power to choose your own direction and pace.
SHARE THE EXERCISE
Share this post with a person or group who may benefit from it.
SASHA ALEX LESSIN, Ph.D.
Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., is an anthropologist, author, counselor, hypnotherapist, teacher, and researcher whose work explores the ways early conditioning shapes emotional life, relationships, sexuality, identity, and personal choice. In Teach Tantra, Sasha examines how caretakers, institutions, culture, and experience imprint the developing self and how people can identify those patterns, understand the protective roles they once served, and consciously choose new responses.
Sasha earned his M.A. and Ph.D. in Anthropology from UCLA and also completed advanced training in counseling psychology. His career has included university teaching, counseling, group work, hypnotherapy, breathwork, Jungian and past-life approaches, and decades of research into consciousness, mythology, tantra, human potential, and transformational psychology.
As Dean of the School of Counseling & Tantra, Sasha integrates psychological insight with experiential practices that encourage self-awareness, emotional honesty, personal responsibility, and conscious choice. His work invites people to examine inherited beliefs and automatic reactions, honor the parts of themselves that developed for protection, and create healthier ways to meet their emotional and relational needs.
Sasha is also a longtime researcher and writer on ancient cultures, Sumerian traditions, the Anunnaki, mythology, consciousness, and humanity’s larger story. Through Aquarian Media, EnkiSpeaks.com, and DragonAtTheEndOfTime.com, he continues to explore the connections among psychology, culture, consciousness, relationships, ancient wisdom, and human evolution.
JANET KIRA LESSIN
Janet Kira Lessin is an author, host, counselor, regression hypnotherapist, researcher, and media producer whose work centers on consciousness, healing, relationships, personal transformation, experiencer studies, tantra, and human potential. In the context of Recalibrate Caretaker Conditioning, Janet’s work helps people recognize the emotional patterns and protective strategies they carry from earlier experiences and bring greater awareness, compassion, and choice to the present.
Through counseling, regression work, writing, teaching, and broadcasting, Janet explores how people can reclaim suppressed parts of themselves, strengthen their inner voice, and move beyond automatic reactions that no longer serve them. Her approach emphasizes conscious self-examination, emotional expression, personal agency, and the freedom to choose one’s own direction and pace.
Janet is CEO of the School of Counseling & World Tantra Association, School of Tantra, World Polyamory Association, and a principal host and producer with Aquarian Media. Her broader work includes interviews and research on consciousness, contact experience, relationships, sexuality, spirituality, ancient mysteries, and the evolving human story.
Through DragonAtTheEndOfTime.com, EnkiSpeaks.com, AquarianMedia.org, books, articles, programs, and interviews, Janet creates spaces for people to examine who they have been taught to be, discover who they are becoming, and imagine more conscious ways of living and relating.
JANET KIRA LESSIN & SASHA ALEX LESSIN, Ph.D.
Janet Kira Lessin and Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., are authors, counselors, educators, researchers, and media hosts whose shared work explores consciousness, psychotherapy, relationships, tantra, personal transformation, ancient wisdom, and human potential.
In Recalibrate Caretaker Conditioning: Decide Your Direction & Pace, their work centers on a fundamental question: how much of what we feel, believe, and automatically do was shaped by early conditioning, and how much can we consciously change?
Together, Janet and Sasha examine the emotional and relational patterns people develop in response to caretakers, institutions, culture, and experience. Their approach encourages readers to identify the protective subselves that formed along the way, understand why those parts developed, listen to what they still need, and create new responses that reflect present-day awareness rather than old programming.
Their work spans counseling, hypnotherapy, tantra, consciousness studies, experiencer research, anthropology, mythology, ancient civilizations, relationships, spirituality, and the human future. Through Aquarian Media, DragonAtTheEndOfTime.com, and EnkiSpeaks.com, they bring together decades of teaching, counseling, research, writing, and broadcasting.
Their recurring message is one of conscious choice: understand the past, honor what helped you survive and adapt, and reclaim the freedom to choose your direction, your pace, and the life you want to create.
ARTICLE EXCERPT
How much of your emotional life did you consciously choose, and how much was programmed before you were old enough to question it?
Recalibrate Caretaker Conditioning: Decide Your Direction & Pace explores how early experiences with caretakers, peers, institutions, religion, culture, and media can shape emotional responses, beliefs, sexuality, relationships, and personal identity.
Drawn from Teach Tantra by Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., and Janet Kira Lessin, this experiential process invites readers to revisit formative experiences, identify the protective parts that developed around them, understand how those responses once served them, and consciously choose new paths now.
The goal is not to erase the past. It is to understand it well enough that the past no longer makes every decision for you.
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Explore how early caretaker conditioning shapes emotions, relationships, sexuality, and identity—and learn an experiential process for reclaiming your direction, pace, and power.
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REFERENCES
Lessin, Sasha Alex, Ph.D., and Janet Kira Lessin. Teach Tantra. School of Counseling & Tantra.
Janov, Arthur. Primal Therapy materials and the tradition of Primal Therapy associated with examining early emotional experience and its continuing influence on adult life.
Video: Arthur Janov’s Primal Therapy Official Trailer (2018) – An Associative Documentary
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The experiential exercise guides you through recalling an early push-or-pull experience, feeling the emotions and body sensations connected with it, identifying the protective subselves that formed, understanding how those parts once served you, and consciously revising the old pattern.
The purpose is not to reject the parts of yourself that protected you. It is to listen to them, understand them, and reclaim your ability to choose your own direction and pace.
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How much of your emotional life, sexuality, relationship style, and sense of self developed through conscious choice—and how much came from conditioning?
In Recalibrate Caretaker Conditioning: Decide Your Direction & Pace, Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., and Janet Kira Lessin explore how early experiences can influence emotional reactions, protective behaviors, beliefs, relationships, and identity.
This experiential process invites you to:
• Recall an experience in which someone pushed you faster than you wanted to go or held you back when you were ready to move forward.
• Notice the emotions and body sensations connected with the experience.
• Express what you could not express at the time.
• Identify the protective subselves and attitudes that developed.
• Understand how those parts helped you then and what they need now.
• Revise the old scene with new possibilities.
• Create an affirmation.
• Imagine a future choice.
• Center yourself between old reactions and new possibilities.
From Teach Tantra by Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., and Janet Kira Lessin.
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Your life. Your body. Your choices. Your pace.
We cannot change the fact that the past happened, but we can change our relationship to the patterns it created.
Recalibrate Caretaker Conditioning explores emotional imprinting, protective subselves, inner-child needs, self-expression, and the power to reflect before automatically repeating an old response.
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RECALIBRATE CARETAKER CONDITIONING
Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., and Janet Kira Lessin explore how early emotional conditioning shapes our adult lives—and how we can consciously revise old reactions without rejecting the protective parts of ourselves that once helped us survive and adapt.
Recognize the imprint.
Hear the old voices.
Honor the protection.
Create new possibilities.
Choose your direction and pace.
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CLOSING CALL TO ACTION
What old reaction would you like to replace with a conscious choice?
Read the exercise, try it aloud, write down what emerges, and return to your answers later. You may hear parts of yourself that have been waiting a long time to speak.
Reflect. Feel. Listen. Choose.
Then share this article with someone who might benefit from reclaiming their own direction and pace.
RECALIBRATE CARETAKER CONDITIONING: Decide Your Direction & Pace | Chakra 3 Empowerment
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How much of your emotional life, sexuality, relationship style, and sense of self developed through conscious choice—and how much came from early conditioning?
In Recalibrate Caretaker Conditioning: Decide Your Direction & Pace, Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., and Janet Kira Lessin explore how caretakers, institutions, culture, peers, and experience shape emotional responses, beliefs, protective subselves, relationships, and identity.
This experiential journey invites you to recognize old patterns, feel what your body still carries, give voice to what went unsaid, understand the parts of yourself that formed for protection, and create new responses rooted in awareness and choice.
The purpose is healing. We move beyond trauma, drama, automatic reactions, and the negativity that separates us from ourselves and one another. We return to presence, compassion, self-trust, connection, and the freedom to choose our own direction and pace.
This work comes from Teach Tantra by Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., and Janet Kira Lessin. For decades, we have used these time-tested practices with thousands of clients and in our own lives.
Tantra is a discipline and an art of kindness, compassion, empathy, presence, and love in every relationship—with lovers, friends, family, community, and ourselves. When we live these principles, we create greater harmony within ourselves and help bring more peace, love, and balance into the world.
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