I’m Genetically Male

1,313,827 views Oct 26, 2023

Wanted to share something very important and personal to raise awareness and hopefully help someone who’s struggling with similar feelings I felt back when I was diagnosed as intersex. Follow me on TikTok and Instagram: sara4sberg

@katherinewillie9776

7 months ago (edited)I found out that I had a male testicle instead of an overy when my husband and I were in a Dr’s office while we were trying to get pregnant. My husband had a worse problem with it than I had. He left me that day and threatened to kill me. I had to call the police. He went to jail that day, and I moved to Alaska to get away from him. I’ve lived off grid in Trapper Creek Alaska ever since. It’s been 40 years now, and I’ve never hidden this from anyone. I’ve been with the same man for 38 years now. He doesn’t care that I once had a testicle. I never had children, only because I only had one ovary. I’m 62 now. You are a beautiful human being!!!Show less

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@oober3690

6 days agoI am a medical doctor. Thank you for posting this. I actually learn a lot from people when they are open about their medical issues on social media. It helps me to be more understanding and compassionate with my patients. It helps me to connect with them better and understand what they need. You are awesome.

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@susangilmour4713

2 months agoYou’re no freak of nature, you’re a normal part of the human race that contains variations. You’re very beautiful and charismatic, so be proud.

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@gregorycanady2530

2 weeks agoWOW….what personal strength! I’m a 78 year old guy……..nothing special……The few times I’ve witnessed this kind of maturity, I’ve always appreciated it…….I envy your uniqueness ……..you’ll be OK……(you’re here for a reason)

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@wzsmart2890

6 months agoThere may be a young intersex person that feels scared and alone just like you did and they might find this video and feel a little less lonely. Thank you for sharing this.

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@jcsrst

1 month agoI appear to have stumbled into the good corner of YouTube, all the comments are kind!! This is what the platform should be! Thanks for sharing your painful and amazing story!

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@jessejames3489

3 months agoHello Sara, I am an older intersex woman, a medical doctor, and I teach about intersex at the med school of a large university. To correct you, it is not estrogen that made you grow tall, but not enough of it (I am 6′ 3″). Estrogen fuses the growth plates of the long bones, and not having enough of it makes you grow to you possible genetical height. That is why boys are taller than their sisters. Otherwise you can live a productive life, and even have a family (I adopted my wonderful daughter). You just have to believe in yourself, and do the things you feel compassionate about. Lots of luck for you future life!Read more

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@undercover-cowboy

2 weeks agoim an intersex guy but was raised as a girl, thank you so much for this video

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@masonwelty8058

3 months agoI’m male but have a medical anomaly for a p*n*s. It’s been a lifelong battle with shame I don’t deserve, and kills my confidence and energy more than I want to admit. You are so awesome for living life and not letting your differences drag you down!

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@reeyam5929

3 months agoI truly can’t fathom why people ostracize others for something that was innate- something a fellow human being had ZERO control over! Thank you for raising awareness around intersex experience Sara- you are a very brave, funny, and interesting woman!

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@bobklein7366

1 month agoIn 1977 when I was about 6 years old I found out I was XXY. My mother told me I would develop differently and we never talked about it again. I understand the feeling of not belonging. Thank you for stepping up and making this video

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@jcasey2309

2 weeks agoAs a father of 2 children, it broke my heart to see even a slight glimpse of you revisiting the pain and suffering you must have went through growing up. You are amazing for stepping up and helping shed light on this topic.

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@Rhondas_Flippin_Life

2 months agoGirl, tall and drop dead gorgeous… Fr super model is all I see

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@alwlcd

10 months agoSara, thank you for educating us about being intersex. We love you, welcome back!!

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@grandpajoe9851

4 months agoAt 62 I’m finally becoming a better human being thanks to listening to people such as yourself sharing and educating. All people deserve love and compassion. Thank you so much for sharing, you are such a beautiful person.

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@taiwanjon2583

4 days agoThis is the very first time I’ve watched any of your videos. It just popped up on my feed. Thank you so much for posting this. IMHO a lot of prejudice and discrimination comes out of fear, and that fear is born out of ignorance. I believe that education is the key to progress. Thanks to your video, as of this writing, 1,281,568 people are now better informed about a very serious and important issue. Great job!

@agazaneksu

10 months agoSo happy you decided to talk about this! It’s crazy how many intersex people don’t even find out they’re intersex until later in life. So sorry for how you were treated by some interviewers and tabloids.

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@Innonsense

7 months agoOmg “I am 29, still very much in my early 20s” slayed me. Thank you queen bestie, for that relatable moment.

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@user-nt9nd7xm5f

2 weeks agoI was genuinely ignorant on intersex. What a powerful and articulate video. Huge kudos for explaining and good on you, truly enlightening

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@ananta6113

10 months agoHey Sara. Thank you. My partner is intersex, I’m still learning so much about it so I can understand him better. He also told me how lonely he felt and how traumatic his experience was. Thank you. Thank you.

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@jennyhoman195

3 months agoOh sweet baby girl (in her early 20’s 😉 ). You are amazing and brave and such a light in this world. Thank you for sharing your incredible authentic self. You make this grandma proud.

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@sheikhalfihri

10 months agothis was the super rare genetic condition you said you have when you did your tattoo video! it’s wonderful to see intersex people coming out into the limelight! proud of you for finally having the courage to be upfront with who you are️️️

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@pawelhyzopski6456

2 weeks agoContrary. Abnormalities account for like 1% population. Specific types are rarer by definition. Most ppl dont understand it anyway and will smack you on the spot.

@AmyBumble

4 weeks ago“There were also underdeveloped testicles. FUN.” Haha that’s just tickled me. Great response and I’m so glad you have gotten to a point that you can be lighthearted about what must have been really scary at the time. Keep killing it girl, enjoy the rest of your 20s, its gonna be a great decade lol Read more

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@stacylitwin1466

3 months agoThis is exactly why children need to be properly educated about intersex people. So that when someone discovers this about themselves it isn’t this scary thing that you’d never known about. People are aware that other people can’t have children for a lot of reasons yet being intersex comes with so much more stigma and it doesn’t need to, thank you for sharing this with everyone

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@OliverHeikkinen

10 months agoMore people are intersex than you’d know. Thanks for sharing

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@sandya2948

2 weeks agoI don’t know how you popped up on my feed, but I am in awe. You pubicly sharing your story is so brave, so impressive, so meaningful. You are a gorgeous, witty, compassionate, intelligent woman and communicator. You now have a new follower- I hit that button so fast. Your spirit touched me.

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@AC-ih7jc

3 weeks agoMy dear child, you are not just female… you are ULTRA female! Embryonic-you wanted to be female so badly, you told that Y-chromosome to pound sand! You rock, my young goddess, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! Much, much love! ️ ️Show less

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@ainsworthingram1368

2 weeks agoI just stumbled on this post. Never heard of you before. Im in Jamaica. Its a small population ao im not sure the statistics on intersex peraons…But I must say this: you are genetically HUMAN. Applaud you!

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@destinitra

7 months ago (edited)omg this hit home so much. Ive never related to a video so hard. This is the first video of you ive ever seen. I am male. Also 1994 born 29yr old. But had always felt different until i went to the doctors about a lump on one of my testis worried that it was cancer. He examined me & look puzzled as well as sending me for some blood tests & a scan. It wasn’t cancer thankfully. Before ultimately at the age of 21 diagnosing me as intersex. I am 47XXY so genetically have both male and female chromosomes. I also tried to send my dna into a family testing thing and they came back saying there were problems. So much of my life suddenly made sense when i was diagnosed. Why id always have a higher voice. Why i seemed to have wider hips and more breast tissue than the average male. Why when boys being boys would hit each other in the downstairs area & theyd all writhe on the ground but i felt nothing. Why as i got into my late teens more and more people thought i was female when first meeting me especially if i wore hats which sucked as i used to wear hats a lot as part of my daily clothing. Why i never really grew any facial hair nor much body hair. Subsequently was told i couldnt have children which was very confusing as at the time i believed i had already had a baby boy. Due to me now knowing i was infertile it later came out that i wasnt the father of said boy but i loved him as my own. Being a father & having a family was all i could ever imagine myself doing when i was younger and being told that not only was that impossible but that the kid who you think is yours isnt was completely heartbreaking. I know there are other routes for having kids like adoption & it wouldn’t be the first time in my family for there to be an adoptive line in the tree not in the slightest. But its still a punch in the gut. Not many people know i am intersex & those who do dont quite get what it means. There are some friends who tease me about me fathering a child so young unaware that actually i am incapable of having children & alexander isnt mine. I’ve been raised as male & always seen myself as a man so will continue to be he/him the rest of my life. The intersex awareness thing got me too. Every single year i think should i post something on facebook. I still havent but one day will have the guts too. I’m getting more and more brave and open to do so so maybe this year will be the one.Show less

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@iAloof

10 months agoJesus christ. I used to watch you like 7 years ago and checked your account again like two weeks ago! I wasn’t expecting to get a notification at all. I’m glad that you feel comfortable enough to share this stuff with us. We still love and support you regardless.

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@sdean1978

8 hours agoGirl. This is a TRIUMPH. You are so tough and brave. Bravo to you for doing something for others that you did not have for yourself. Thank you for evolving this conversation.

@thecritic1265

10 months agoI cant imagine how this diagnosis changed your whole life. If it wasnt horrible enough to accept this new info, but also those malicious people who wanted to out you for some sensational hungry purposes. Lady Gaga was asked the same question in an interview and she handled it perfectly:”Who cares what I have got between my legs. My fans are going to love me nevertheless.”

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@sarakyoutube

10 months agoI love you Sara, I have missed you so much and often think about you. I have always been in awe over your humor and creativity. Thank you for being so brave and transparent. You will forever be a rockstar in my eyes <3 Sending you love and light. xoxo

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@misshazed

10 months agoNever seen you until this video but I just know you probably saved multiple peoples lives by making this brave video. You go girl

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@edwardrizzorhands

3 weeks agoNo idea how this came up, but I have nothing but respect for you. I’m glad you’re proud in who you are, you should be! Wishing you the best 🙂

@live7katie

8 months agoI’m really glad you posted this. It should be more normalized! Biology is wild, and there’s so much variety.

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@FoodIsOverrated

10 months agoWe’re not thinking of you differently, you’re still a woman and we still love you no matter what

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@tabicat1975

5 months agoSara, I’ve honestly never seen any of your videos before when this one came up on my “recommended” tab. This is one of the most beautiful, honest, poignant, transparent videos I’ve ever seen! Good on you for being true to yourself and authentically you! You are AMAZING!!! And BRAVE!! I admire that in a person! You’re a gorgeous soul you are! Thank you for teaching us. ️

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@miasewell1958

2 days agoYou’re a beautiful woman and soul and any body who can’t accept that really isn’t worth knowing. ️

@richardhenry5961

6 months agoYou are more of a woman then you know About 50yrs ago, we had a girl in junior high school so happen to be a good friend, she wasn’t having her period either. She went to the doctors, then she abruptly left school, it took a about 6 months she contacted me with the results, doctors were puzzled at first, someone figured it out, same condition. She did marry and adopted to kids. So there are happy endings

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@bexixx

9 months ago (edited)I have a cat like this he had a penis we took him to the vet to get nurtured they said he doesn’t have testicles they scanned him but he had ovaries. So we had to make an appointment to get his lady parts removed. Then when they were removing them they found testicles inside of him and removed them also. He is a beautiful cat and is definitely worthy of being loved equally to the other cats

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@obiwann785

7 months agoI’m not intersex, nor do I have a child who is intersex but if I were or if I did, I would be so grateful for this video. Yes, the internet has its problems but I love how it can connect people dealing with issues that make them feel alone or different.

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@2idiot4u

10 months agoAcually 1,1% of the world population is diagnosed as intersex. Way more than people with down syndrome (0,2%) and yet most people I know never heard about intersex. Good thing you tell people about your personal story!

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@MaverickAussie

1 day agoYou’re a bloody inspiration, Sara, and all that matters is that you’re a good person. I’m sure it can be tough in your country, however you can’t control how others perceive you so don’t bother with anyone who doesn’t respect you for who you are. Thank you for sharing what must have been very difficult after more than half your life wondering “what is wrong with me?”; I can’t imagine how difficult it must have been and probably continues to be. I wish you every happiness and am sure you’ll find your tribe and have the family you’ve dreamed of if that is what you want. From the comments here it shows you’re not alone.

@gloriahenderson7804

3 months agoI am a 76yr. Old woman, XX chromosomes. My story is that of a girl who was messed up by endometriosis. I didn’t have my first period until I was 14 and it was very painful. I would go months without a period and the doctors would give me shots to start on . I never knew when I would have a period, therefore could not plan for it to start. My periods were very painful and lasted a week( the pain,too!) I was only able to have one child and the doctors said I was lucky to have him. I had a total hysterectomy when I was 30. The endometriosis hah gone into the walls of my uterus. When I was in my 20’s the endometriosis got out into my abdomen, causing perintitis, I had to have surgery to remove adhesions. All in all I was never so glad to get rid of all pain! People who have no difficulties in their lives have no idea what others go through, they are unable to understand what we go through. One should never judge someone else for their life choices, everyone has the right to live the life they are most comfortable with and not be torn down for what life has handed them!Read more

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@houllier1964

1 month agoWhat a very brave and totally authentic young soul. Hats off to you young lady, talking so openly about something so very personal can’t be easy.!

@FernLovebond

3 months agoThanks for being so open and offering such personal information. Making intersex people more visible, normalizing this situation, helps combat stigma and misinformation, and you are being commendably forthcoming making yourself vulnerable like this. Thanks again.

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@eloisebrinson3437

3 hours agoThank you for sharing your story. I was diagnosed with AIS at 15. My operation was at Duke University as part of a teaching experience for other Surgeons. There are support groups and websites online. I am always available to text, message or talk. You are so awesome. This will help others. Thank you.

@eastcoastlockdownbullies

3 months agoThank you. I watched this with my 14 yo and 11 yo sons. If they ever meet an intersex peer know that your story has helped me teach them compassion. The world is a bit better now because you’re in it.

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@cinemaofsounds

4 months agoYou can tell she’s a beautiful person inside and out

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@Khadeejahraja

10 months agoIntersex is also part of “normal” and more common than most people realize. Humanity is diverse and interesting. That is the god given “you” physically…so you do you Sara. Thank you for sharing. Regards from Saudi Arabia.

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@AlexzandriaL

2 weeks agoI respect you so much for telling your story and making other intersex people feel more represented and hopefully more comfortable in their own skin. I hope someday you can have kids if that’s what you want.

@LayllasLocker

10 months agoHonestly, for me this changes nothing. You are Sara. I don’t see people as organ collection. I see people as souls. Stay strong. Good luck!

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@jeralynquinlan306

4 months agoI can honestly say that before this video I didn’t know who you were but I can also say that I am so freaking PROUD of you for being so very raw & honest ! You’re AWESOME!! ️️

@ghoshuvo

10 months agoKiitos paljon, Saara (Sara). Sharing this ABSOLUTELY DOES help some intersex youth, and as a pediatrician who works with them I will be sure to mention it whenever I encounter one of my patients struggling with these feelings of being different. You are inspiring and it takes courage to share these parts of your life with the wider world. It means a lot. And if you ever feel like the deeper or more profound aspects of this experience have not been really discussed with you, or you haven’t been able to find the kinds of support or answers you need for this point of your life, don’t hesitate to reach out. You are not alone in this (you know that!), but you are actually even less alone than you know, and more loved and appreciated than you could imagine!Read more

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@Henryloudermilk

19 hours agoSara, you are not alone. You are not different or wierd. You are exactly who you are supposed to be. A beautiful loving person and woman! You are loved and respected. Peace and love to you/

@watermalin

10 months ago (edited)Saara, i’m so sorry you had to experience such trauma and disrespect from such an early age. Due to no fault your own. And for something that has never been “wrong” like they tried to drill into you. There’s been so much societal discrimination against intersex people and straight up medical discrimination. Thank you for sharing, there are people who need to hear this. Here’s to breaking the stigma. As a fan for 6 years now i’m looking forward to more content and so happy to see you on youtube again!

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@philipberthiaume2314

3 months agoIt’s a shame that I can only like a video once. This message will resonate with others who are struggling with their identity.

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@pazurlina

10 months agoSo sorry for your trauma and that media harassed you. Thank you for sharing this, on your terms! Proud of you! Much love! <3

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@jeremyeden7413

3 days ago (edited)Stumbled on your video, anybody that thinks that a chromosome makes someone worth knowing or loved is an idiot. You are an amazing human and just keep being all those roles of people you listed. Take care.

@Oceanicas

1 month agoThis story is actually so wild and I really respect you for talking about this. I honestly didn’t even know this happened like this

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@MurphyMosby

10 months agoGiiiirl, if archeologists ever find your skull all they gonna think is “damn, this person had one flawless bone structure and was beautiful as heck”. No but seriously, to me you’re one of the most beautiful women on youtube, like I adore you. And it’s totally fine that you weren’t ready to talk about it. Ultimately, it’s no one’s business. But I love hearing about it because it makes me adore you even more. The way you are so reflected and almost chill about it is hella inspiring

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